Beautiful_02- Single Guys Outtake from NewSpring Media on Vimeo.
This was posted on one of the blogs that I follow from Perry Noble (http://www.perrynoble.com/) who is the Sr. Pastor at NewSpring Church in Anderson SC. I think that it applies to those who are married and not.
We men need to step up and claim our role in our families.
From "The Message" bible by Eugene Peterson
Ephesians 5
22-24 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.
Ephesians 5
25-28 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They're really doing themselves a favor—since they're already "one" in marriage.
We men need to stop castrating ourselves and grow a set. Learn your role! Be your role! Learn how to bless your wife and children. It will be an investment in the future of your family!
A mans role is undoubtedly the leader of the house. But we are not taught this, because it is politically incorrect. We were instead taught a distorted sense of equality. Have you heard of the 50/50 rule where the husband will do the chores for a day and the wife on another? Has any man ever cared enough to clean? Even when he does clean, how clean is it? Has any man ever "wanted" to take out the rubbish? No! Because men are not made like that.
I think that we need to find time to be men, honorable men, that lead their families. If you cant do it on your own, then ask for help. It is NOT a sign of weakness to ask for help in such Godly pursuit. It is a sign of our own failure, but desire to be better. Learn from your past mistakes, but endeavor to not repeat them again in the future. Talk to a spiritual friend about their struggles and share your own. Ask them to help keep you accountable, and keep them accountable as well. Surround yourself with Spiritual warriors. Go on a "Walk to Emmaus". DO SOMETHING!!! Don't let another day go by without pursuing your wife and this goal. Today is the day. Draw the line in the sand and don't ever cross back over it.
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3 comments:
Hi Brian,
I'm Dori's Mom and it is really nice to know you are one of her things that make her happy. There must be something really special about you because she is really special. This has nothing to do with your current blog, but she commented on you on one of hers.
Well, I actually did just read this blog, and being a former and present feminist (I have 4 brothers and I am the oldest and my parents didn't distinguish between sexes, we all had equal chores,) I completely agree with you. I believe that in the day when someone decided men needed to start being more sensitive, and therefore changing boys, was when things started falling apart. Boys and men are different from girls and women and I believe that you, as men, have become way too sensitive. But in hard times, women had to start going to work to help support the family in my day, so that's where equality went askew. Women who worked did need help, and so women who were able to stay home with their children, then started demanding equal time and their husbands had to do the 50/50. That's when a lot of you became sissies because it was politically incorrect (as you say) to act like a man. I happen to be married to a wonderful man (43 years and Dori's Dad) who balances all of this. I knew how far to push him and I knew when to stop. He was more like 30/70, then became anal and became 70/30 and now I've created a monster. He has to have everything in its place, but he is still just a guy. Thank goodness he grew up in the 40s, 50s and 60s that gave him the advantage to do this. He is sensitive, manly, strong, weak, and he had a great mama. You guys have a big job to take it back and I am behind you because I'm getting tired of the too-sensitive husbands and dads (closet guys.) I still think if both of you have to work, everybody needs their designated chores. And women who stay home with their children need a break. Maybe the 50s through the 70s weren't so bad after all. Best of luck to you.
Love, Mom
Right on, brother.
(Although, I do really like it better when Logan takes out the trash!!)
Re: this post.
Logan and I saw a commercial a few times where there is a cute guy ironing in a pink frilly apron (shirtless) while talking to someone on the phone about how much he loves his girlfriend of 6 weeks (or something like that). The point of the commercial is that that would be the ideal man.
The commercial drives us so crazy! The role of men is so twisted in our society right now. It's no wonder people are confused! I think in most marriages, the women makes the decisions and keeps things running because she doesn't trust her husband to do it, and he was never taught to lead. It is sad and frustrating. Plus scary to think about how it will compound in future generations.
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